Dear Savvy Naturalista: Meghan’s Valentines Day Mishap

Oh the drama of Valentine’s Day and the days after. Meghan shares her story with us about the gift she thinks she really wanted.

Dear Savvy Naturalista,

I am in my mid 20’s. Neither my boyfriend nor I have much money to spend on each other. However this valentine’s day I decided that I would save up some money and get him something nice. It’s something I knew he wanted for a while. Since we’ve been dating for a year I thought it was the right time to get it for him. This year he took me out to dinner at one of my favorite places I hadn’t been to in a while so I was excited. At the end of dinner I handed him his gift and the look on his face was priceless. Dinner was followed up by one of his famous foot massages and I was heaven.

On Monday when I went to work my friends were all chatting about their valentine’s day, and all the lavish gifts that they got from there significant others.  They were showing off their gifts and I could feel myself getting jealous. When they asked me about my gift I really didn’t know what to say! Compared to what they got I feel as if he didn’t get me anything. I’m so angry with him for not getting me anything that we’ve been getting into arguments every day. I even asked him to give me back the gift I got him. This hurt him very much and we haven’t talked in a few days. He feels as if I am being selfish and overreacting, but I think he is the selfish one for not getting me anything. I miss him dearly and don’t know what to do.

 I need HELP!!!!

Thanks Meghan

Hey Meghan,

I know you’re not going to like what I half to say, but I am going to tell you that you owe him in apology! You seemed pretty happy with the way he treated you all the way up until you got to work. It’s not fair to be happy with what he did for you and then get mad at him because your friends got better gifts. Meghan you can’t let your coworkers or friends influence your relationship with a man you’ve been with for a year. I think this is what’s going on and your projecting it onto him; him taking you to your favorite restaurant and paying for the dinner followed up by a foot massage is AMAZING!!!

Do you know how many of your friends would love for their significant others to rub there feet? Probably a lot of them would! Valentine’s Day is only one day and I know he shows his love on many more occasions then just one day. Think about all the sweet things he does for you during the year. The gift you got for him was because you wanted to see him happy and since he is not happy, you need to fix that. Meghan I think you should give him his gift back, and apologize to him because you were the one being selfish. Make it up to him and try not to compare your relationship to others.