Many of you remembered my segment hey savvy naturalista where I would answer readers questions. I really wanted to stick with beauty and cooking related questions, but I get so many questions and stories that are not related to those topics. I decided to bring back the segment and call it Dear Savvy Naturalista! Dear Savvy Naturalista is a community where we can all share are stories, so if you feel you can help any of the readers don’t hesitate to respond. Kristy story is one I know many of us can relate to. Comparing ourselves to one another is a habit that can be quite common.
Dear Savvy Naturalista,
It’s Kristy! Lately I have been comparing myself with a very close friend of mine. Ever since are elementary days we have been two peas in a pod. I have no clue what happened, but we have become very distant. I know it’s not her and it’s me, she has much better grades and much more of a social butterfly then I could ever be. It seems like everyone knows who she is and she even found a much better job than I did. Her parents are always talking about how special she is to my parents. It gets to the point where I am hearing about her all the time and I have become a bit consume with jealousy. Now if she calls me, wants to hang out or meet me somewhere. I find any excuse to blow her off, cause an argument or just not answer her calls. I don’t want to lose her as a friend, but I just wish I had what she did and could compare my life to hers. Can you give me any advice on how to deal with this situation? I just feel as if no one understands.
Thanks so much
Kristy
Hey Kristy,
I know exactly what you’re going through and it to be honest it’s quite normal to compare yourself to a very close friend. I have done it many times in my life and still continue to do it. You guys spend so much time together that it’s bound to happen every now and then. You never know she may be feeling the same way about you.
But to blow your friend off is something that you need to reevaluate; you could lose a very close friend over jealousy and may not be able to repair that friendship. Good friends are very hard to come by, and one that you have known for as long as her is priceless. Try to see things from her perspective, she could be under a lot of pressure and may not be happy with the way things are going for her. I think you should start by looking at what you have and what makes you special. We are all different and special in are on way. Instead of looking at her as having everything you don’t have, maybe you see the qualities that you have that make you special and shine. Also if your parents are rubbing it in just talk to them about how that makes you feel. I am sure they will understand. It may take some time but try to repair your friendship and work to being the best Kristy you can be!
